NEIL LAWMAN – ESSEX

❌NEIL LAWMAN – ESSEX but travels all over the UK❌

I was recently involved with Neil Lawman, believing we were in a committed relationship. Everything appeared normal until a woman posted about him in a singles group that my sister and friends were part of. That post raised extremely serious concerns, and as soon as I realised what was going on, I ended the relationship immediately and removed all my belongings.

From what others have shared, he often maintains one main relationship while secretly speaking to or meeting many others. Even while I was with him almost 24/7 — meeting his friends, being introduced to people in his life, attending events with him — he was apparently presenting the same “perfect partner” image to others. I repeatedly said he seemed “too good to be true.” Sadly, I now understand why.

There are discussions of a documentary in production, media articles, and police-related matters connected to him, Many women have come forward with their own experiences

He is known to police and is subject to checks under Clare’s Law, according to those who have accessed disclosures. I had no idea about any of this until after I left.

He presents himself as living between:
• St Osyth (a property he refers to as his “second home”)
• Leigh-on-Sea, where he claims to have an apartment

Other details frequently mentioned by women who have spoken to me:
• He has a cockerpoo named Ralph
• He claims to be a chocolatier and chef
• He is active on Facebook Dating, various dating apps, singles groups, business groups and general Facebook groups across the UK, with a heavy focus on Essex and Suffolk

There is far more information than I could ever fit into one post. the number of women affected is overwhelming.

Anyone who knows me knows I am neither foolish nor easily manipulated — and yet this still happened. There are many of us, and our experiences are disturbingly similar.

If you have had any interaction with him or have concerns, please reach out to me. I have extensive evidence and messages from others that support everything I am saying here.

One story below –

A widely reported case involved a man who told women he was infertile but, in reality, had fathered at least four children with different mothers. After discovering the truth, one of the women connected with others online who had also been misled, and they joined forces to pursue child maintenance. 

The group of women first came together after a Facebook post revealed that a man they all knew — identified in public reporting as Neil Lawman, a 51-year-old IT consultant — had concealed his true fertility status from multiple partners. Despite telling at least one woman that he was unable to have children, DNA and family connections later showed he had four children with different mothers. 

The discovery prompted the women to collaborate, share their experiences, and seek child support. Those involved allege that the man’s claims about his fertility were false, and that the misinformation affected decisions about relationships and parenting. 

The women reported feeling betrayed, manipulated, and financially burdened by the situation. Some took practical steps to pursue financial support for their children once they learned the truth. Their experience highlights the emotional and legal challenges that can arise when a person misrepresents important personal information — especially about parenthood — during a relationship. 

The case drew widespread attention after it was shared on social media, leading others in similar situations to come forward. It was also covered in national news, emphasizing not only the personal impact on those involved but also broader issues around honesty, responsibility, and support for parents and children when relationships break down.